My story of motherhood is not one of rainbows and butterflies.
I wasn’t the mother that dreamed of being a mother all her life. I didn’t really give it much thought…I know, don’t stone me…lol. Motherhood kind of crept up on me and I can’t say that I was very prepared mentally or emotionally for it. I just kind of learned as I went along. I made a lot of mistakes and there was a time that I thought my kids bring me so much frustration and I did not see or experience much joy in being a mother. I really did not understand the gift and treasure I was given. I thank the Lord for His patience with me. It‘s through my journey as a mother that I have seen the best part of me and the worst part of me, and that’s when the true transformation began.
As a Mother, I am learning that without our children, we would be shallow, selfish, inconsiderate, judgmental human beings. God knew we needed these little ones to learn from and He also knew it would take parental relationships to understand the depth of true love. Our little ones challenge us, they bring our flaws and inhibitions to the forefront, and if we were completely honest, we are sometimes ashamed of what we’ve become in a moment of testing. We find ourselves at the height of frustration, no longer rational with our mouths; completely out of control making us hypocrites because its the opposite of how we tell the kids to behave. The same little one that we can never hug enough also pushes us to our limits. Have you ever felt overwhelmed and defeated in the middle of diapers, laundry, music lessons, soccer practice, homework, and disobedient behavior? Does the task seem to require something that you don’t possess? Do you ever feel like a failure at parenting? Have you asked yourself, what have I gotten myself into? I’ve been there.
Does my attitude reflect His calling?
My attitude towards motherhood was an unhealthy one. I treated it as an afterthought, a burden, a frustrating task. My attitude was one of showing up after the bell had rung, climbing out of bed, dragging my feet, yep, for another day of demands and commands for our children. Who would want to get up for a day of that? I realize that I was not taking this job seriously as the mandate requires. I have minimized the honor down to a daunting task. An unwanted job for those who can’t find regular paying ones. A job with no status or benefits. How easy we get sucked into the lie of mainstream America. A subtle but deceptive notion that the most important jobs are the monetarily highly paid ones.
An Attitude Adjustment
But we should be there before the bell rings, fully dressed, with an attitude of grace to help and direct with love, patience, and confidence that says,” I am called to this, so help me God”. What I didn’t understand is the journey I am taking is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. I am in a partnership with our children and with the Lord. I am teaching them and they are teaching me to grow, mature and be better. They challenge me to be better and do better, and without them, I would not max my potential. I need them as much as they need me. I have been privileged to nurture these precious gifts as if they were molded and fashioned for God’s glory. I thank the Lord for changing my heart and attitude.
Like a warrior’s fistful of arrows are the children of a vigorous youth. Oh, how blessed are you parents, with your quivers full of children! (Psalm 127:3-5)
Motherhood is a gift of beautiful transformation! Our reward as parents are the highest paying ones because we are touching heaven by changing little lives on earth. What a reward 😃
I am so glad the Lord has entrusted me to this task. Having the Lord as my present help as made all the difference. God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). I am learning to take every difficult opportunity as a moment to teach and show our children the way; God’s Way. To do this we must practice what we preach, we must live it, breath it and speak it. We must model the Bible to our children. We must become what we talk about, read about and pray about. God wants us to “walk the talk” before our children and reflect Him. You are the Bible coming alive to your children. The first disciple they have. That’s a tall order, but I am up for the journey. Motherhood is my calling, my first and top priority so I have surrendered my will for His, my way for His way. I pour the very best of myself into each day. I embrace the good days as well as the bad. There are no perfect days, there is a lot of mistakes and messiness, but if your heart is open, and your attitude is right, motherhood is the greatest treasure and the biggest blessing life has to offer. My resolve is to give it my very best.
P.S. Coffee is your friend☕️😁
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